Why should you read this about spiritual gaslighting?
Because God didn’t call you to be a doormat.
If you’ve ever been spiritually gaslit, you know how confusing and lonely it can feel. They twist Scripture, guilt you into silence, and make you question your worth under the guise of faith. But here’s the truth:
You were never meant to carry the weight of someone else’s spiritual gaslighting or manipulation.
Let’s get honest and real about how to shut it down. These are things you can say out loud—or even just in your heart—to protect your peace and reclaim your power.
1. “Faith isn’t blind obedience—it’s trust built on truth.”
When someone tries to shame you into compliance, remind them—and yourself—that faith and wisdom go hand in hand. You weren’t called to blindly follow abuse cloaked in Scripture.
2. “Questioning isn’t rebellion. It’s how faith grows roots.”
Curiosity and spiritual maturity are not sins. Don’t let anyone confuse compliance with righteousness.
3. “Even Jesus flipped tables when people misused God’s house.”
Jesus wasn’t meek with manipulators. Neither should you be.
4. “God doesn’t want me trapped in something that’s destroying my soul.”
Let’s be clear: staying in harm’s way is not holy. God is not glorified by your suffering.
5. “Submission without safety isn’t holy. Spiritual gaslighting is harmful.”
Real love doesn’t demand silence. Real relationships don’t thrive on power imbalance.
6. “Truth doesn’t fear questions—only lies do.”
If someone is offended by your need for clarity or your desire to understand, it says more about their control than your faith.
7. “Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting—or returning to abuse.”
You can forgive someone without putting yourself back in harm’s way. Grace doesn’t erase accountability.
8. “God also hates abuse, injustice, and hypocrisy. Let’s not cherry-pick (That IS spiritual gaslighting.)”
If they love quoting “God hates divorce,” remind them of the full character of God—He is just, compassionate, and never cruel.
9. “I trust my relationship with God more than your interpretation of it.”
You don’t need anyone else’s approval to walk closely with your Creator.
10. “Prayer isn’t a substitute for responsibility.”
Praying about a problem doesn’t cancel the need to take responsibility for causing harm.
11. “The Bible isn’t a weapon to control others through spiritual gaslighting. It’s a guide to love them.”
Scripture is not a tool for manipulation. It’s a compass for compassion and truth.
12. “I’m allowed to walk away from what hurts me—even if it wears a holy mask.”
Sometimes the most sacred thing you can do is leave the place that’s wounding you.
13. “God didn’t call me to be quiet. He called me to be free.”
Freedom is sacred. Your voice is sacred. Your boundaries are sacred.
Sister, You’re Not Alone
If your soul has been tangled up in toxic theology, you’re not crazy—and you’re not wrong for walking away. You are brave. You are worthy. You are not being disobedient by protecting your peace.
Ready to Reclaim Your Voice and Silence Spiritual Gaslighting?
If anything in this post made your heart skip, your stomach drop, or your spine straighten just a little—you’re not alone. You’ve got sisters all over this world learning to unlearn the lies and step into their sacred truth.
So here’s your next brave step:
Write down one spiritual phrase that used to make you feel small—and rewrite it into something that sets you free. Tape it to your mirror. Make it your lock screen. Say it out loud until you believe it.
And if you’re ready for more conversations like this, join me on the My Ruby Slippers podcast, where we pull off the masks, untangle the dogma, and walk the yellow brick road back to ourselves—one courageous step at a time.
Because just like Dorothy said… there’s no place like home.
And home is where your voice is heard and your spirit is safe.
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